- Travel. Maybe get your motorcycle license if you don't have one already and do a long journey such as the Pan American highway. But there is something about travelling that puts things in perspective and makes you appreciate life more. Going slow on the road is different to just flying into somewhere. It is more of an achievement. If this appeals to you, get a subscription to Apple TV and watch Long Way Up where Ewan McGregor and Charley Boorman do half of it on electric bikes. They also have two earlier seasons but this one is probably more relevant to you as they are in their late 40s. The two of them are noticeably happier and carefree by the end of the journey.
- If you want to stay in one place, create goals for the following:
- A fitness goal. Choose something measurable in either something you've never tried before or something you know you enjoy. Maybe it's achieving a deadlift PR. Maybe it's running a 5k. Get a solid plan for it that you can stick to, either via an app or via a coach or exercise group.
- An education goal. Choose something you've always wanted to learn or something that will help you with your career. Can be an app or a college course. Do 15 mins of it a day. Duolingo is perfect for this as you can see yourself progressing every day.
- Choose a project. Can be something career related or creative. Work on it for 15 minutes every day. Set up a blog and write about your progress every day on the internet. There are super simple low tech options out there like blot.im and bear blog that do not require any coding skills whatsoever. Post on here when you have set up the blog so we can all follow in your progress.
You need to get your confidence back and you will only get it back by doing challenging things. Start as small as you possibly can. If you have never ran before, your goal is 1 mile. Once you have achieved 1 mile your next goal is 2. Do NOT start with the goal of a marathon. If you do this and you fail for whatever reason (even for stuff outside of your control like getting an injury) you are going to fall back into the depressive mindset thinking you can't achieve your goals. If that happens and you have achieved a few goals already it won't have nearly as much impact - you can just pivot to a different training goal like a flexibility goal or a swimming goal.
Get a copy of Atomic Habits by James Clear. It lives up to the hype.
One more thing:
Journal every day. Right down what went right, what went wrong, and what you can try out to improve things. Rant out on the page if you need to then get back out there.
- Travel. Maybe get your motorcycle license if you don't have one already and do a long journey such as the Pan American highway. But there is something about travelling that puts things in perspective and makes you appreciate life more. Going slow on the road is different to just flying into somewhere. It is more of an achievement. If this appeals to you, get a subscription to Apple TV and watch Long Way Up where Ewan McGregor and Charley Boorman do half of it on electric bikes. They also have two earlier seasons but this one is probably more relevant to you as they are in their late 40s. The two of them are noticeably happier and carefree by the end of the journey.
- If you want to stay in one place, create goals for the following:
- A fitness goal. Choose something measurable in either something you've never tried before or something you know you enjoy. Maybe it's achieving a deadlift PR. Maybe it's running a 5k. Get a solid plan for it that you can stick to, either via an app or via a coach or exercise group.
- An education goal. Choose something you've always wanted to learn or something that will help you with your career. Can be an app or a college course. Do 15 mins of it a day. Duolingo is perfect for this as you can see yourself progressing every day.
- Choose a project. Can be something career related or creative. Work on it for 15 minutes every day. Set up a blog and write about your progress every day on the internet. There are super simple low tech options out there like blot.im and bear blog that do not require any coding skills whatsoever. Post on here when you have set up the blog so we can all follow in your progress.
You need to get your confidence back and you will only get it back by doing challenging things. Start as small as you possibly can. If you have never ran before, your goal is 1 mile. Once you have achieved 1 mile your next goal is 2. Do NOT start with the goal of a marathon. If you do this and you fail for whatever reason (even for stuff outside of your control like getting an injury) you are going to fall back into the depressive mindset thinking you can't achieve your goals. If that happens and you have achieved a few goals already it won't have nearly as much impact - you can just pivot to a different training goal like a flexibility goal or a swimming goal.
Get a copy of Atomic Habits by James Clear. It lives up to the hype.
One more thing:
Journal every day. Right down what went right, what went wrong, and what you can try out to improve things. Rant out on the page if you need to then get back out there.
You've got this.