>money not really out of your control if you have a donor advised fund or private foundation or both
Not sure what you mean by "control", but you are not getting it back. In one year, you have blown a $50K hole in your budget that you will never be able to spend on anything else.
Presumably the idea is that you can use that "donated" money to buy influence, e.g. buying your kids' way into fancy schools. I don't know whether $50k/year is enough to do that though.
now you’re talking, the other side of this is that this is just year 1
years 2 - n the tax exempt nonprofit account grows tax free, after its balance is large enough it can independently be an investor in VC/PE/Hedge Funds and have an infinite time horizon. just keep funding it until the homerun.
the same goes for the tax deferred retirement accounts, they are separate entities and can eventually become investors for higher risk higher growth things
they can be generational wealth things as well that allow for influence from your family, without the complications around ex-spouses, inheritance tax, cost basis adjustments, liability. just everything at your discretion while remaining judgement proof.
it really depends on how you get value out of it. tax deferred and tax exempt are still ammunition. and its important to load them up with as much money as possible, and then they grow tax free from there on.
by your hyperbolic word choice, I understand its important for you to be right about your view. don't do it then.
Not sure what you mean by "control", but you are not getting it back. In one year, you have blown a $50K hole in your budget that you will never be able to spend on anything else.