> One day you’ll find yourself saying “like” a lot. Please stop. If this generation can’t quit the habit, we’ll eventually have an American president who speaks that way too.
People who think this way really grind my gears. I especially enjoy that, like, there's no explanation for why this would be a problem.
As someone who gets deeply irritated by filler words, I will try to tell you why it makes me feel like that.
People who abuse filler words do so to keep the line busy because they fear being interrupted. Their speech is a continuous and anxious stream of poorly formed sentences without regard for the listener. Trying to listen to them feels like taking a ride with a brake-happy, inexperienced driver.
Isn't that bit the same as when people use the word literally but not meaning literally? It grinds your gears but who am I to tell people how to speak?
people hold the phone vertically when shooting video because that’s the way the video looks when they watch it on their phone. This is the most correct way to prepare a video for casual viewing.
People hold the phone vertically when they shoot videos of other people, and other people happen to be vertical. They can see each other (aspect ratio)^2 times larger: more pixel, and bigger on screen.
> Please stop. If this generation can’t quit the habit, we’ll eventually have an American president who speaks that way too.
What an utterly superficial way of looking at the presidency. GW Bush and Trump didn't talk like valley girls, but still said plenty of nonsensical garbage that lost them respect at home and abroad.
People like who like think like this like way like really like grind like my like gears. Like I like especially like enjoy like that, like, there's like no like explanation like for like why like this like would like be like a like problem.
For people in the age group that commonly does this, they know which part of the sentence the interjection is likely to appear in, and their brain can automatically filter it out, so it doesn't bother them and they don't even see it as a problem.
This applies to all verbal interjection. You use some form of verbal interjection too, but of course you don't even notice that you are doing it, and you would also get angry if some other people told you that your speech pattern is stupid and that you should change how you naturally speak.
> In linguistics, a filler, filled pause, hesitation marker or planner is a sound or word that participants in a conversation use to signal that they are pausing to think but are not finished speaking.
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> Every conversation involves turn-taking, which means that whenever someone wants to speak and hears a pause, they do so. Pauses are commonly used to indicate that someone's turn has ended, which can create confusion when someone has not finished a thought but has paused to form a thought; in order to prevent this confusion, they will use a filler word such as um, er, or uh.[1][3] The use of a filler word indicates that the other person should continue listening instead of speaking.[4]
More to the point: Every language has them. Every language has always had them. Journalists are trained to edit them out of "verbatim" conversational speech unless they want the person they're quoting to come off like an imbecile, but longstanding journalistic convention doesn't mean filler is in any way recent.
We don't always speak without filler any more than we always speak in iambic pentameter.
I didn't believe the conceit -- that the narrator is your wise uncle. It sounded like advice written by a much younger person pretending to be the wise uncle.
Definitely, I got the same vibe reading this as I do with Economist articles where you can tell the unnamed author waxing poetic inefficiencies in state allocation of capital just graduated 2 years ago.
I can. We all know a person like this: well-read but highly sanctimonious, overly concerned with keeping up appearances, frequently complains about 'societal degeneration'.
Bonus points if they're also a tech bro who's into Seneca and Marcus Aurelius.
The problem I’ve always found with etiquette advice is that it can usually be summed up with “be kind to your fellow human” or it’s just “I have this pet peeve, stop doing this”.
I think there’s a significant difference between the user in being an adult that knows that Siri etc isn’t ‘real’ and is considerate enough of others to treat them with respect to say please and thank you, and a child. What do we teach a young boy if he learns that he doesn’t have to say please and thank you to a device that (almost universally up until now) speaks with a woman’s voice?
I have thanked AI in the past, not Siri or Alexa, but when it’s smart enough for me to wonder whether there is a bit of consciousness hiding in there. Just in case.
